There is one phase in a life where a person just end up messing everything around them. They always feel that they are the one who is suffering from pain hatness breakups bitching and what not. They always blame others for their sadness until we act in their favor. No matter how hard we try to make them feel better to make things right to clear all grudges they will only react to what they want to. The person is always ready to find an excuse to break the bond and relations with others. Why? Because we as a human failed to understand their favor and tried to make them more happier then they are. We tried to make them realize that what ever happened with them was bad but that doesn’t mean its end of life. We tried to be better version of ourselves with them just to make them normal.
We tried to make relationship better and stronger. We tried to be a good human with them. We tried to negotiate as many terms as they want and even if we negotiated, the deal ended up from their end because they dont want to stay with us. We tried to provide our shoulders to them to just tell them that be relax we are with you. We actually tried to make them more calm and comfortable. We tried to be as old good friends with them. We tried to create new relationships. But all failed
We end up regreting that nothing worked but the fact is that the person itself is responsible for their own suffering. The person never tried to be good. The person should try to trust in faith and believe that whatever happened is just part and parcel of life. The person should try to let go things instead of letting go relations. Because for them it is just a relationship but for others it is the most precious and valuable assets of life. The person should not change themselves as a person instead should make changes in agreeing with relationships. Because every relationship will not hurt you until you choose to be same open with them. The person should try to be negotiative with new terms taking care of the one who is with them in relationship. (relationship can be anything). The person should try to move on with learnings instead of sticking to the same thing and holding it for years and years.
The person should try to be a better version that makes them happy and people around them happy because in this whole world there is no one who can just stay happy with themselves. You need some one to be there with you with whom you can stay happy. Even the patient feel good when nurse come around in rounds with a thought in a mind that he/she might get some good news to hear in matter of health.
When the person fails to try all of this, they will start losing everyone around them. They will just try and try to find peace around them all by themselves but in real they will get more and more alone because at some point people will leave. This behavior is need to be stopped. At long run people who use to be with that person will give up because if the person can not let go things and they just try to be a different person completely, that person will act the same with their loved ones if by mistake their emotions get hurt by the loved ones. They basically start using this behavior of them as a protection sheild to protect their emotions.
Well all of this is not required or need to be done because if you just control your emotions and be more rectified with your terms then you will never ever get hurt. But i guess this is the more difficult part of a life. A person literally becomes selfish just to protect their emotions. For them nothing is valuable and important then their emotions. They easily block others who try to hurt their emotions just to escape the situation. They just forget all the efforts and time others used to make them a normal. They just push others to a limit where we burst because the person is not trying to understand and then we become the drequella of their life.
They just simply end up with past and blaming others for the mess created in their life. No matter how hard we try to clear that mess the person can never get over it because they just dont want to. They just hold it all in their mind for years and years and we human end up deing with the guilt that we could not solve the things. They always present and behave and moreover make us realize that they are the victims. They need to be taken care of. No matter how badly we tru n understand their situation they can not even feel that how we are feeling. Even if we are sad upset or broken that dont even matter to them. All they can see is that their emotions and their feelings.
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